To elaborate on this further, take a husband and wife for example. The husband prefers to stay home on Sundays, enjoy his one day off and watch football. The wife prefers to enjoy some quality time with her husband that doesn’t require being in the house all day, since she is majority at home during the week taking care of the children. It’s their one full day off together and they end up arguing and fighting on what they want to do. Husband has his wants and needs and so does the wife. They bicker every Sunday that it now becomes a dread feeling to them both when the weekend comes.
Now, if they are only speaking from their wants and needs and not looking at the other persons wants and needs, who do you think is running the conversation? The ego. The ego wants it this way and if the ego doesn’t get what it wants it usually ends up in an argument.
If the husband and wife are only having conversations with each other from ego to ego where do you think the conversation will take them? Nowhere. It will stay a consistent battle fighting over who is right and who is being selfish.
Now what happens if we step outside of the physical verbal communication we do in the third dimension and allow ourselves to speak from our heart field rather then the ego? Let’s find out…
The wife has a realization that the only way for her husband to understand her and hear her is maybe communicating to his heart and not to his ego. She begins to detach herself from his ego and communicates from her heart to his heart. With no words, she allows the frequency of her heart to talk to his. While she is allowing her heart to connect with her husband she begins to feel the exhaustion he has on his heart. She starts to feel and understand why her husband just wants to relax and enjoy sports while the kids run around playing. She begins to have compassion and sympathy towards him instead of anger or frustration. She begins to understand on a deeper level why the way he is, which brings her more clarity, peace, and acceptance.
Coming from the husband’s perspective. The husband one day has a realization that he is tired of bickering and arguing with his wife every weekend. He wants to understand her better. He begins to drop from his mind and into his heart. He allows his heart to connect to her heart without verbally speaking a word to her. His heart asks her heart for better understanding and while he is doing so he sees the grief and sadness she has in her heart. She is stressed caring for the children all day that she rarely gets to leave the house or see her husband during the week while he is at work. He begins to feel appreciative and grateful for her and all the work she does around the house and for the children.
By communicating from the heart they both now have a different perspective. They now begin to understand and hear what each other are saying without getting defensive or angry.